Let’s Dive into Love and Heart Healing

Hello February, and Happy Birthday to all those born this month. I hope your birthday month brings you blessings of abundance.

This month’s focus is on love, heart healing, self-love, compassion, forgiveness, the energy of Venus, connection and emotional balance. I am kicking the month off talking about the heart chakra. It is the fourth energy center, located in the center of the chest. The color associated with this chakra is green. The heart chakra governs love, compassion, empathy and forgiveness. When this chakra is open, it fosters self-love and balances relationships. When it is unbalanced, it leads to the opposite. Blocking emotions like grief, jealousy, and even poor circulation. Underactive heart chakras manifest detachment, insecurity, loneliness, trust issues and may make you appear to be cold to others. If it is overactive, you become co-dependent, you may demand affection and attention.

This area is the “thrown” seat of emotional well-being. There are a few practices you can incorporate to realign this chakra. Things like breathwork, practicing forgiveness of yourself and others, and acknowledging your self-worth. Spending time in nature. Bringing in different shades of green will help calming your anxiety and raise your vibrational energy. Finding emotional balance may not be easily navigated. Unresolved trauma, betrayal, neglect, or the loss of someone important to you can throw you off balance without even realizing what is happening.

Releasing, relaxing, and opening the heart chakra through mediation is a great way to improve the practice of self-care. There are many guided meditations available. Be sure you are in a comfortable, safe place that enables you to relax and connect with your breath.

Here is an example you can use as well. I suggest you record the below as it makes it easier to meditate when you are not reading the words.

Get comfortable. Rest your hands by your side or over your heart. Whichever feels right. Take a deep breath and close your eyes.

Take in a slow deep breath and notice the coolness of the air entering in through your nostrils and how it warms with an exhale through your mouth. Again, slowly breathe in and release the warm breath through your mouth.

Allow your breath to find its natural rhythm as you continue to relax within your breath.

Softly bring your attention to the center of your chest. The space that surrounds your heart and the energetic space that is also there. Connect not only to your breath but also the soft beat of your heart.

Imagine a soft, warm light glowing in this area. With each exhale feel all tension melt away from your chest, your shoulders, your upper back. If you notice tightness, heaviness or emotion here, just acknowledge it. We are not fixing. Not judging. This too is welcome to receive compassion and space.

Silently repeat to yourself.

"I am safe to open my heart." Breathe

"I deserve love, including my own". Breathe

"I forgive myself for not being perfect." Breathe

"I choose to show myself kindness." Breathe it in. Feel it. Accept it. Welcome these words into your heart center.

Imagine your heart light expanding. It is growing, filling your whole chest, your ribcage, your lungs and your back.

Let this beautiful warm light flow down your arms into your hands. It continues to flow up into your throat and face. Continuing down into your belly, your hips feeding and flowing inside your own field of compassion.

Picture yourself as you are today or maybe a younger version of yourself standing in front of you. Look at this version of you with the same warmth you would give to someone you deeply love.

Silently say to this version of you:

I am here for you.  Breath

I care how you feel. Breathe

I see you. Breathe

You are worthy of love exactly as you are. Breathe

See this version of you receive these words from you. Notice the softening or maybe even glow around this version of you.

Gently, bring that version of you into your heart space. Feel the merging with the warmth of the light within your chest. No separation. Just wholeness, connection and grace.

Take a deep breath in and let it go with a sigh.

Visualize your hands connecting. Place your hand on your heart and the heart of the version of you and vice versa and finish with saying,

I am love. I am loved. I am enough. breathe. Receive it and know it to be true.

When you are ready, wiggle your fingers and toes. Move your head from side to side and open your eyes. 

You may choose to incorporate stone energy into your meditation.

-Rose Quartz is the self-love stone and is associated with unconditional love, compassion, and emotional healing. It helps soften harsh inner dialogue and quiets self-criticism. Using rose quartz can bring in a sense of being held, safe, and supported emotionally. Using this meditation can help heal the inner child. Rose quartz helps reinforce your voice in saying I deserve love. I choose kindness towards myself. It has a nurturing frequency. Place the stone in your left hand (the receiving hand) as you meditate.

-Green Aventurine helps balance and support the emotional healing of the heart. It is linked to the heart chakra and emotional recovery. It helps release old emotional patterns and disappointment and bring calm, steady, and hopeful energy in. Emotionally, it is about opening to positive experiences. It helps when you are working through hurt, resentment, and emotional fatigue. It says, “It’s safe to feel again.” You could choose to pair these two together as well.

-Rhodochrosite is deep self-worth and inner child work. This energy goes deep. It helps heal shame, old emotional wounds, and self-rejection. It is strongly tied to self-worth and self-acceptance. It supports reconnecting with the younger you. This is considered the re-parenting stone. It is very powerful when love feels difficult.

-Malachite  helps release emotional blocks. This is a more intense energy, but it is very transformative. It is known for pulling old emotional pain to the surface and encourages the heart to open after walls of protection are formed. This is a great stone energy to use if you feel like your heart chakra is blocked. This energy is not as soothing as others it is more truth and release.

Rose quartz and malachite pair well together if you are working through heartbreak.

Before you meditate, set an intention like, “May the energy of this stone support me in opening my heart to offer myself love.”

Even if you don’t fully believe in crystal energy healing, your mind responds strongly to a symbol and an intention. It brings focus and emotionally resonates with the shift you will begin to feel.

Self-love sounds simple. Just be nice to yourself, but emotionally and psychologically it can be difficult to do. Don’t give up, you are re-wiring learned reactions. Self-love can affect your immune system. The way you treat yourself internally creates the habits of how you deal with stress, rejection, conflict, and mistakes.

Actively practicing self-love helps you recover from setbacks faster. When you mess up, you don’t fall apart. You are able to listen to constructive criticism without feeling worthless. You are able to attract healthier relationships.

No ego-stability and balance.

You are setting a tone for others treat you. It is behavioral. If you feel unworthy, you probably over give. Accept whatever crumbs are left over from “friends” who don’t value you the way they should because you do not feel worthy. You have grown used to ignoring your own needs.

Self-love sets boundaries because your inner voice says, “Hey, I matter.” You are the only voice that you cannot escape. You can change jobs, move to different cities, change relationships, but your inner voice is a 24/7 365-day contract. If that voice is cruel and critical life feel sluggish and heavy. But a supportive inner voice makes even the hard things achievable.

Why is this difficult? It may feel unsafe to be venerable. How you feel about yourself is a learned trait. As kids, we may have felt it was conditional based on the words, “be good, make us proud, don’t be so sensitive, don’t be too much, don’t be selfish.” Maybe you felt as though you were only worthy of love if you performed at the level that pleased others. Maybe you feel caring for yourself threatens old survival strategies., making you feel vulnerable. Your inner critic thinks it is protecting you. It may have started as protection, but has it turned cruel?

Do you criticize yourself first so others can’t hurt you? Do you push yourself so hard so you won’t fail? If you relax, do you feel you are leaving your guard down? Losing control? If I go easy, I’ll fall apart. Is there some shame that you hide beneath? What make you feel rejected? Mistakes? Needs? Jealousy? Insecurity? Past choices? Does your brain constantly say, “Danger, danger. Avoid all of those.”

Here is the thing: love is including all parts of you, not excluding them. It is not selfish. Selfishness is only caring about yourself. Self-love is caring for yourself as well as others. It is not your ego, “I’m amazing all the time.” It is I’m still worthy of care even when it is messy or it goes wrong or if I am struggling and insecure.

Newsflash, we are all a work in progress. You are not bad at self-love. You are untangling the years of survival patterns. This takes patience, and patience is a form of grace and …. self-love.

I am asking you to think about some of these examples I have offered. See if anything resonates with you. Meditate with or without a stone. Invite grace and love to grow within yourself and see if you begin to feel lighter.

Life is worth living, loving, and forgiving. Not just others, but ourselves as well.

I pray you live the life you love and love the life you live. If not, maybe invite yourself to receive grace and kindness from your inner voice.

Blessing for a most magical day,

Stacey

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