Venus Energy…Self-Love Continued
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We are continuing this month speaking about self-love and today we are going to talk about what “Venus” energy is and teaches us. “You were never meant to chase love. Venus remind you - you were meant to be the one love comes home to.”
Let’s break this down.
Venus's energy is the frequency of love, worthiness, beauty, and attraction. It governs how safe we feel receiving love, pleasure, support, and kindness — especially from ourselves. Venus isn’t about chasing love; it’s about believing we deserve it.
When Venus energy is healthy, we naturally attract relationships, experiences, and abundance that reflect self-worth. When it’s wounded, we may over give, seek validation, struggle with self-love, or feel we have to earn love and rest.
At its core, Venus's energy teaches us that love flows toward us when we remember our inherent value — not because we try harder, but because we allow ourselves to receive.
🌹 Who Is Venus?
Venus is both:
🌌 Astronomically:
The planet associated with love, beauty, attraction, harmony, pleasure, and values in astrology.
🌺 Spiritually:
Venus is the feminine principle of:
receptivity
magnetism
sensuality
self-worth
emotional and relational harmony
In mythology (Roman), Venus is the goddess of love and beauty (same as Aphrodite in Greek myth). But spiritually, she’s not just romance — she represents:
The force that draws life toward connection, pleasure, and affection.
She is the energy that says:
“I am allowed to receive.”
✨ Why Venus Is Important
Because Venus governs what we believe we deserve.
And what we believe we deserve shapes:
the love we accept
the treatment we tolerate
how we talk to ourselves
whether we allow pleasure or feel guilt
how easily abundance flows
Important point:
Your Venus energy determines your “receiving capacity.”
You can only receive love, success, joy, and support to the level you feel worthy of them.
💖 Venus & Self-Love
Without healthy Venus energy:
Self-love feels forced
Compliments feel uncomfortable
Rest feels undeserved
Love is over given but hard to receive
With healthy Venus's energy:
Love feels natural
Worth isn’t something to prove
Pleasure feels safe
Relationships feel mutual
🌿 Spiritual Perspective
Venus reminds us:
Life isn’t only about effort (that’s more Mars/Sun energy)
Life is also about allowing
Receiving is a spiritual skill
Beauty and pleasure are healing forces, not luxuries
She teaches:
“You don’t attract through struggle. You attract through self-worth.”
“Venus is the energy that governs how🌹 Who Is Venus?
Venus is both:
🌌 Astronomically:
The planet associated with love, beauty, attraction, harmony, pleasure, and values in astrology.🌺 Archetypally / Spiritually:
Venus is the feminine principle of:
receptivity
magnetism
sensuality
self-worth
emotional and relational harmony
In mythology (Roman), Venus is the goddess of love and beauty (same as Aphrodite in Greek myth). But spiritually, she’s not just romance — she represents:
The force that draws life toward connection, pleasure, and affection.
She is the energy that says:
“I am allowed to receive.”
This is all about coming to self-balance, self-peace, self-acceptance and self-love. This is not about being “selfish”. The better you feel about yourself the better we are to others. Our entire demeanor shifts.
🌹 Here is an analogy of two gardens
Imagine two gardens.
🌱 Garden One
This garden believes:
“I only deserve water if I grow perfectly.”
So it tries very hard:
stretching toward the sun
pushing to bloom fast
comparing itself to other plants
But when rain comes, the soil is tight and closed.
The water runs off.
The plant is exhausted, dry, and wondering:
“Why doesn’t nourishment stay?”
🌸 Garden Two
This garden believes:
“Water comes because I am alive.”
So it rests in the soil.
Its roots are soft, open, receptive.
When rain comes, the ground absorbs it easily.
The plant grows, not from effort — but from allowing.
🌹 The Meaning
The rain is love.
The soil is self-worth.
The roots are your Venus energy.
You don’t grow because you try harder.
You grow because you allow nourishment to reach you.
✨ Venus energy is not about chasing the rain.
It’s about becoming the soil that knows it deserves to receive it.
When self-worth is low, love slides off.
When Venus is healed, love soaks in.
💖
“You are not meant to become worthy of love. You are meant to soften enough to receive the love already trying to reach you.”
The 2nd garden was open to receive what naturally was given. While the 1st garden worked to receive. It thought the only way to receive what it needed was to perform and to be in perfect order first.
Humor me for a minute and visualize being the garden. Here is a meditation you can try.
🌹 Becoming the Garden
“Sit comfortably. Let your body be supported.
Nothing to hold up right now. Nothing to achieve.”
Take a slow breath in through your nose…
and a long, soft exhale through your mouth.
Again…
Breathing in…
and letting go.
🌱 Arriving
Bring your awareness into your body.
Feel where your body touches the chair or floor.
Feel your weight being held.
Say silently:
“I am allowed to be here.”
🌿 Becoming the Garden
Now imagine you are a garden.
Not a perfect one.
Not arranged.
Just natural, alive earth.
You are soil, roots, leaves, life.
Notice the ground beneath you — rich, dark, supportive.
This soil is your inner worth.
No one gave it to you.
It exists because you exist.
🌧 The Old Pattern
Notice if your soil feels tight or dry in places.
Places that learned:
“I must try harder to deserve love.”
“I have to earn care.”
“I must be better first.”
Just notice. No fixing.
Whisper inside:
“These places were protecting me.”
🌸 Softening
Now imagine a gentle warmth moving through your soil.
The ground loosens.
The roots soften.
The earth becomes open.
Say quietly:
“I don’t have to earn nourishment.”
🌧 Receiving the Rain
Now, above you, clouds gather.
Not a storm — a soft, steady rain.
This rain is love.
Care.
Support.
Kindness.
Ease.
It begins to fall.
And this time…
You don’t reach.
You don’t perform.
You simply allow.
Feel the water soaking into your soil.
Absorbing.
Staying.
Your roots drink.
Your leaves lift.
Growth happens without effort.
🌹 The Venus Truth
In this moment, feel:
“Love comes because I am alive.”
Not because you proved anything.
Not because you tried harder.
Just because you are.
Let that sink in like rain into earth.
🌤
The rain slows.
The ground is nourished.
You are not striving.
You are receiving.
Take a breath in…
and feel your body again.
Wiggle fingers.
Feel the room.
And carry this knowing:
“I am the garden. Love can reach me.”
🌹 What to keep in mind
Venus is the energetic frequency of:
Love (especially how we receive it)
Worthiness
Beauty & pleasure
Attraction / magnetism
Relationships (romantic, friendships, and relationship with self)
The feminine principle (receptivity, softness, allowing)
Venus doesn’t just rule love — she rules the belief that you deserve love.
If that belief is wounded → self-love struggles.
If that belief is strong → love flows in all directions.
💖 Venus & Self-Love — The Spiritual Connection
Self-love is not solar energy (doing, confidence, action).
Self-love is Venusian — it’s about:
Venus Energy Shows Up in Self-Love Receptivity, Ability to receive compliments, help, affection, Worth, Inner belief: “I am valuable without earning it”
Pleasure: Allowing joy without guilt. Beauty: Seeing yourself as worthy of care & adornment. Magnetism: What you believe you deserve is what you attract
We don’t attract from desire — we attract from self-worth (Venus).
🌒 When Venus Energy Is Wounded
Low or distorted Venus's energy shows up as:
Feeling unlovable or “too much / not enough”
Overgiving to earn love
Settling in relationships
Guilt around rest or pleasure
Body shame or discomfort being seen
Not receiving support
Self-criticism disguised as “being realistic”
A wounded Venus tries to earn love.
A healed Venus knows love is natural. (Just like the 2 gardens. Earned or natural?)
🌕 When Venus Energy Is Balanced
Self-love becomes embodied, not forced.
Signs of healthy Venus energy:
Can receive without apology
Feels worthy of good things
Enjoys beauty and pleasure without shame
Sets loving boundaries
Chooses relationships that feel safe and mutual
Speaks kindly to self
Trusts their value isn’t up for debate
✨ The Nervous System Piece (what are the effects?)
Venus's energy lives in the body, not just mindset.
Self-love struggles often mean the body is not used to:
softness
pleasure
being cared for
relaxation
Bringing this into your awareness may feel:
uncomfortable with compliments
restless when resting
suspicious of kindness
That’s not mindset failure — it’s a Venus wound in the body.
🌷 How to Strengthen Venus Energy (Self-Love Practices)
1. Practice Receiving
Accept compliments with “Thank you”
Let someone help
Receive without explaining or minimizing
This literally rewires self-worth.
2. Beauty as Healing (not vanity)
Venus's energy rises when we:
wear things that feel beautiful
adorn the body
care for skin/hair
create beautiful spaces
Beauty tells the subconscious: “I matter.”
3. Pleasure Without Earning
Ask yourself:
“Can I allow joy without finishing everything first?”
Venus's healing = pleasure that isn’t a reward.
4. Loving Self-Talk Ritual
Hand on heart, say:
“I am worthy of love exactly as I am.”
Venus responds to gentleness, not discipline.
5. Release the “Earning Love” Pattern
Grab your journal and write these two questions down. Over the next few days, reflect on how it feels in your energy when you truthfully write your answers.
Journal prompt:
Where did I learn love must be earned?
Who benefits when I don’t believe I’m worthy?
🌟 Powerful Matra to commit to your daily life:
“Self-love isn’t something we force. It’s the natural state of a healed Venus energy. When worthiness is restored, love flows to us, through us, and from us.”
💫 Spiritual Truth
Venus's energy reminds us:
You don’t have to prove your worth
You don’t have to suffer to deserve love
You don’t have to be perfect to be cherished
Self-love is not self-improvement.
It’s self-allowance.
🌹 Restoring worthiness, receptivity, and the ability to receive love
Best done on:
Friday (Venus's day)
Evening or soft lighting
Near a mirror if possible
🌸 Set the Space (Venus loves beauty)
Create a gentle, pleasing atmosphere:
Candle (pink, white, or green if they have it)
A small bowl of water (symbol of feminine, emotional flow)
A flower, crystal, or piece of jewelry they love
Soft music if desired
Say:
“I am not performing. I am allowing.”
🌬 Step 1: Arrival in the Body
Place one hand on heart, one on lower belly.
Slow breath in through nose…
Long exhale through mouth.
Say:
“Venus lives in the body.
Worth is not a thought — it is a feeling we allow ourselves to hold.”Feel your physical presence. No fixing.
💔 Step 2: Acknowledge the Wounded Venus
Invite reflection:
“Notice where you learned love must be earned…
Where did you learn to give more than you receive?
Where did you learn your needs were too much?”
Pause.
Then say:
“I did not create this wound. I adapted to survive.”
This removes shame — very important.
💧 Step 3: Water Blessing (Venus's element)
Dip fingers into the bowl of water and touch:
Heart
Throat
Lower belly
Say:
“I release the belief that love must be earned.
I release the belief that I am too much or not enough.
I release the belief that I must prove my worth.”
Water = emotional cleansing + feminine healing.
🪞 Step 4: The Mirror Moment (core Venus's activation)
Look into a mirror, gently look at yourself.
If you don’t have a mirror, eyes closed and visualize self.
Say slowly:
“I choose to see myself through the eyes of love.”
“I am worthy of care.”
“I am worthy of pleasure.”
“I am worthy of being chosen.”
“I am worthy without earning.”
This part can bring emotion — that’s Venus's healing. Allow it to come. Allow it to release.
🌹 Step 5: Receive Love Visualization
Imagine a soft pink-gold light above you — warm, gentle, not overwhelming.
It flows down like silk and rests around your body.
Say:
“I do not have to reach for love.
It comes to me.
Let yourself be the one who is cherished.”
Pause and feel being received by life, not striving.
✨ Step 6: Seal the Ritual
Hold the object/flower/crystal.
Say:
“My worth is not negotiable.
My heart is safe to receive.
Love flows toward me naturally.”
Blow out candle slowly.
🌙 Aftercare
Venus's healing can bring:
tears
tiredness
emotional tenderness
craving softness
That means the nervous system is learning it’s safe to receive.
💖 Remember
Through all of this, I hope you embrace and remember:
“You were never meant to chase love. Venus reminds you — you were meant to be the one love comes home to.”
I pray that you live the life you love and love the life you live. Start with allowing love to come home to you.
Love, light and blessings always,
Stacey
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